Do I let him stay home or make him go? He says that the camp is too hard.
Make him go! He needs to learn that he will have to work hard in life, not let people make excuses for him when the going gets tough.
Do I let him stay home or make him go? He says that the camp is too hard.
Make him go! He needs to learn that he will have to work hard in life, not let people make excuses for him when the going gets tough.
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#1 by Chaosman on September 21st, 2009
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Don’t make him go if he doesn’t want to go. Find something he does like and get him to go to that.
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#2 by Scott on September 21st, 2009
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let him stay
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#3 by matt m on September 21st, 2009
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if he dosnt want to go, then dont make him go…. theres no real merets to going to basketball camp.
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#4 by x.ox_marrz on September 22nd, 2009
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its his chiose not yours
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#5 by Sassy Diva on September 22nd, 2009
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Make him go! He needs to learn that he will have to work hard in life, not let people make excuses for him when the going gets tough.
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#6 by Clitorous P on September 22nd, 2009
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That pansy… You’re his mom! Get his butt to Camp! What the hell else is he going to do?!
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#7 by Noah's Mommy. on September 22nd, 2009
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If he is going to the extreme of faking being sick then why make him go? He obviously does not want to.
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#8 by ? Nina ? on September 22nd, 2009
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he shouldn’t have to do anything he is uncomfortable with. I would let him stay home, but talk to him about it.
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#9 by Heather E on September 22nd, 2009
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why would anyone force their child to go to basketball camp…its not school!!!
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#10 by Amanda on September 22nd, 2009
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I would let him stay home… was it his idea to go in the first place? or was it yours? ask him what interests him and go from there.
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#11 by It's a boy Austin james 8/30 on September 22nd, 2009
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Well if he doesn’t like it don’t make him go, but don’t let him get off the hook and just sit around. Put him to work, have him do some laundry or help in the garden.
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#12 by Hayley :) on September 22nd, 2009
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If you paid for it make him go, but if not and he really doesn’t want to go then leave him home and make him do chores ;]
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#13 by Orc on September 22nd, 2009
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Let him make a few decisions… especially when it comes to activities that were meant to be about fun in the first place.
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#14 by kny390 on September 22nd, 2009
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I agree with above. Some camps are so gung-ho that they are not fun but torture.
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#15 by kingof2007x on September 22nd, 2009
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Tell him that you have taken the appointment with a doctor and that you have to go now. He will give him a shot which will hurt a bit but he will be all ok after that.
By the way you should maybe ask him why is he faking sick maybe he is getting teased by other kids or is being made fun of.. You should find out.
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#16 by *~M'n'M~* on September 22nd, 2009
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just act with him if u no what i mean
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#17 by paulbaby on September 22nd, 2009
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tell him to call the doc and make him an appointment
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#18 by Fred F on September 22nd, 2009
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Let him quite.. it’s his life!
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#19 by Mich on September 22nd, 2009
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if he is faking, then there must be a reason he doesn’t want to go, maybe someone there is bullying him, talk to him about it, if he doesn’t want to go then you shouldn’t make him…
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#20 by Coltrane Kowalski on September 22nd, 2009
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Take him out of hoops and put him where he
will enjoy himself and yet face challenges
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#21 by thewhizkid103 on September 22nd, 2009
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Kids nowadays tend to be lazy(*coughIamcough*)
If you think he can do it, push him.
If you think he really can’t, don’t make him go.
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#22 by KIleey . on September 22nd, 2009
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dont make him do something he doesnt wanna do asshole
!!!!!! i hate parents!!!
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#23 by Zach E on September 22nd, 2009
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don’t force him to play basketball..u will take the fun out of it
he may love basketball, but maybe u should try putting him in a less competitve leauge
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#24 by Velken on September 22nd, 2009
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Make him go anyways, if he asked to do the camp. If you forced him into it, then let the kid stay home and have a decision in his activities.
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#25 by tharmon018 on September 22nd, 2009
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let him stay..
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#26 by suellenh on September 22nd, 2009
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Come up with an alternative plan you both agree on. If he doesn’t enjoy the camp, why would you want to force him to go? Summer activities should include some things the child wants to do – and they’ll do their best work and get more out of it… your son just may not be into basketball. However, if he’s a slacker you should ensure that his summer camp pushes him a bit or he’ll not do well in school or life.
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#27 by ashley040508 on September 22nd, 2009
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i remember my dad forced my brother to go to football camp. he hated it. my dad still made him go. and my brother is 18 now. and still holds a grudge against him for that. dont make your child do something that they dont have to or dont want to do. if hes goin through the trouble to pretend hes sick and risking not going outside then he must really not want to go to that camp.
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#28 by sleepingliv on September 22nd, 2009
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Make him go.
Learning to finish what you started is a life lesson better learned sooner than later.
We will have to go through trials and tribulations for the rest of our lives. Some we’ll breeze through, and some will be difficult. Finishing what we start is tantamount to being a responsible adult.
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#29 by Kylie W on September 22nd, 2009
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well ask him if he actually WANTS to do basketball camp. if he does but hes too lazy, make him get his bum up and off to camp! tell him not to worry and he’ll have fun when he gets there. tell him he will meet friends and do the sport he loves. if he actually doesn’t want to go to the camp because he really really doesn’t like doing the sport and would not like to go at all, then say im sorry to hear that i guess i’ll have to cancel it.
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#30 by gutterflower. on September 22nd, 2009
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Find the root of the "hard". is he lazy and doesnt want a good workout, or do they really drive him to exaustion?
Talk to him about it, and find the real reason.
If he decides not to go, involve him in something else. But, if he really loves Basketball, he’d go- it’ll make him so much better and improve his skills.
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#31 by Keelo Lulu on September 22nd, 2009
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Sounds like he is not interested in Basketball camp. No use of forcing a kid to do what he doesn’t like. A child should enjoy activities and not feel like he has to do it and there are no other choices.
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#32 by J@$MIN3 on September 22nd, 2009
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if he doesnt want to go to camp that badly just let him stay home.
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#33 by Sheryl S on September 22nd, 2009
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Find out the real reason he doesn’t want to go – there is another reason. I would never make my kid go to "camp" if they weren’t enjoying it. If he must go, then you need to go with him and find out why he hates it so much.
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Teacher and mom of 4 well-adjusted twins, ages 12 and 13.
#34 by nzsnow on September 22nd, 2009
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I wouldnt make him go, he’s obviously worried about going or nervous about it.
Good luck with things
Talk to him about why he doesnt want to and dont pressure him
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#35 by bamaglory on September 22nd, 2009
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if he asked to go send him..
I tell mine he wanted to go and he will finish it out….
if I signed him up and he didn’t want to do it then I wouldn’t make him go!
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#36 by Theresa15 on September 22nd, 2009
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he obviously doesn’t want to go. maybe basketball isn’t his thing? find something else that is, and that he’ll enjoy.
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#37 by catlady on September 22nd, 2009
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If he doesn’t want to go then don’t make him.
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#38 by spongepotato on September 22nd, 2009
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Unless he is just lazy, there is probably a reason. Dont make him go, but tell him you know he is faking it, becasue if you dont he will probably think it works and use it more often. When he says "Im not faking it!" just give him a knowing smile.
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#39 by Sammy on September 22nd, 2009
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Maybe he doesnt want to go to basketball camp at all???!?? or maybe, someone is discouraging him. YOU need to talk to him and ask him whats wrong, face to face. I mean, assuming things is different, then actually talking to your son and finding out the real reason why he doesnt want to go. And if he doesnt want to go, well then.. its his decision. if camp is too hard for him then he can find something else to do and have fun. having fun in the summer, is what its all about.
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#40 by Alex O on September 22nd, 2009
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Let him stay if you can get the money back, make him go if you cant.
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#41 by chicken soup on September 22nd, 2009
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let him stay home if he wants to
dont make him do waht he doesnt want…or more have to
ask him if someone is bothering him or if it’s really to hard
but dont get too personal…i htink guys dont like that especially not to their mothers
but he may be differnt
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#42 by music is the way on September 22nd, 2009
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Your son probably does not want to play basketball anymore. I went through the same thing with football. My parents kept pushing me to play but I was just burnt out from all the pop warner and then 2 years of high school. I wanted my summer time to be open for surfing. As long as he has another hobby he wants to put his time into then I say let him stay home. If he is a star ball player, i would encourage him to stick with the sport. I do regret quitting football because it was something I loved. At the time however i was happy with my decision and did not regret it until many years later. If you do let him quit, make sure he has an alternative. Make him get a job. Thats what my parents did and stayed out of trouble.
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#43 by Mtoto mzuri on September 22nd, 2009
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Nothing in life is easy.If you let him stay at home,this will only open doors for him to make bigger excuses in future.
The best thing you can do is sit him down and talk to him,and let him know that this is only one of the many trials that he will face in life.
Whether he decides to go or not,enroll him and force him to go.You will be doing him a big favour!
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#44 by NoOneKnowsMe on September 22nd, 2009
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i would let him stay home but maybe still get him to practice shooting baskets… there also maybe an underlying reason that he doesnt want to go, not just because he says its to hard…. you could try asking him but he may not tell you
good luck , as long as he trys his best nothing is to hard just challenging
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#45 by snakekeeper27 on September 22nd, 2009
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That’s a toughy. I hate to make my kids do stuff they don’t want to do (recreational stuff, that is. They still have to clean their room, and they hate that-lol).
Has he been before? If so, maybe something happened the last time he went that’s bothering him. Kids are not real good about being honest about reasons for not wanting to do stuff.
Is it just one day or a whole week? Is it a day camp or do they sleep over? Ask him to go and give a day or two (if it’s longer than 2 days) and see how he feels. If he wants to come home or stay home after 2 days, then allow him.
I guess just try to compromise with him. Ask him to go for two days and see how it goes.
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#46 by CallmeCheese on September 22nd, 2009
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let him stay and ask him wat he would lik to do hang out wit him
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#47 by mighty_boosh_fan on September 22nd, 2009
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let him stay home and dont let on that you now hes faking. then he’ll feel more guilty about lying to you and is more likely to be honest in the future!
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#48 by Apollo on September 22nd, 2009
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Ah, we have all tried it on when we were kids, I would give him this one, the state breaks the family up enough, and that’s what Mums are for.
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#49 by mns10380 on September 22nd, 2009
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Find out what the problem is. If camp really is too hard, find out why he thinks that. Explain that challenges make you a better player, in basketball and in life. My gut tells me that maybe there’s another problem, maybe bullies or he isn’t making friends. In the end, if he really isn’t dedicated to the camp, don’t force him to go.
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#50 by LoveYouToo on September 22nd, 2009
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This is a trickier question than it seems, and it all depends on you knowing the reason why your son doesn’t want to go.
I know from experience there are almost always two reasons why a person would fake being sick, or any excuse really to get out of going somewhere.
1. He may not want to go because he genuinely has a problem with camp situations, or has has a bad experience he does not want to relive. Maybe someone he dislikes is going? Talk through the problem with him and then see if it’s sensible making him go.
2. He doesn’t want to go because he doesn’t feel like it. Sometimes, we all wish we could just be reclusive, not interacting with other people when we don’t want to. If this is the case, make him go! He may feel like he doesn’t want to go now, but he’ll appreciate it when he’s having fun and making friends at camp.
The only way you’ll know if it’s serious (the former) or not the latter) is to ask him. Sit down and talk about it. But as a tip, don’t let him know you think he’s lying.
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Yours truly